My name is

AARO ARDIS

I’m a relationship & intimacy coach for men & mascs (& couples & polycules too!)

This is a space for…

erotic evolution

healed masculinity

epic relationships

I support extraordinary men (and mascs) to transform their inner lives and sensual selves, create values-driven masculinity, and understand and cherish feminine energy (and energy beyond the binary).

I also support couples and polycules to communicate with sophistication and skill, and thrive in partnership and pleasure.

How will you evolve as you lead and follow, listen and love? Let’s chart your journey.

EXPLORE THESE TRANSFORMATIVE OFFERINGS

release. EXPAND. ENJOY.

bring GROUNDED presence & sensual energy to every aspect of YOUR life.

The explorer package

  • You’re excited about personal evolution. You’re investing in your communication skills and ready to tap into your erotic energy. You want to show up strong in the bedroom and the boardroom. You don’t just want insight — you want activation.

  • 4 sessions over 1–2 months

    • Welcome Session: We explore your deepest motivations, desires, challenges, and contributions in relationships — so you can maximize your inherent assets and play to your strengths.

    • 3 focused 90-minute sessions: We craft a vision of your most free, loving, powerful, and mature masculine self — and map your way there.

    • After every session, you’ll receive a rich, multi-page Insights Summary packed with celebrations of your progress, powerful affirmations, customized meditations, breath and embodiment practices, communication upgrades, relational tools, integration exercises, and reflections designed to deepen your growth between sessions.

    This container builds clarity, momentum, and erotic confidence.

    $1990

The master package

  • You’re the kind of man who wants to master the strategic areas of growth that support epic love. You’re ready to refine your emotional intelligence, deepen embodiment, enhance pleasure and prowess, and root your masculinity in your highest values. This is for the man who wants a richer, more liberated, more electrifying life — and is willing to build it.

  • 8 sessions over 2–3 months

    • Welcome Session: We map your relational blueprint — motivations, patterns, strengths, and growth edges.

    • 7 high-impact 90-minute sessions: Targeted work to help you feel more sexy, confident, grounded, and at ease in your power.

    • Customized tools and practices aligned with your personal evolution - whether you need to recharge or supercharge your mind, body, and erotic energy.

    • After each session, you’ll receive a comprehensive, multi-page Insights Summary filled with detailed reflections, celebrations of breakthroughs, affirmations, guided meditations, breathwork and embodiment practices, communication strategies, relational skill-building tools, and personalized integration steps to accelerate transformation.

    This is sustained, transformative work. Not a spark — a recalibration.

    $3790

The Couple’s & polycule’s package

  • As a couple or polycule, you have the heart, curiosity, and passion to evolve your union into something beyond beautiful. You don’t want “fine” or even “great.” You want depth, aliveness, and devotion. You’re together to love - with real relational skill and consciousness.

  • 6 sessions over 2–3 months

    • Welcome Session: We map your relational terrain — attachment dynamics, sexual needs, communication patterns, and the deeper truth at the core of your love.

    • 5 guided 90-minute sessions: Focused on intimacy, erotic expansion, emotional safety, relational clarity, and shared vision.

    • Support whether you’re monogamous, exploring non-monogamy, or in an established polycule.

    • After every session, you’ll receive a detailed, multi-page Insights Summary packed with shared reflections, celebrations of progress, affirmations, guided meditations, breath and embodiment practices, communication frameworks, intimacy-enhancing exercises, and practical integration tools to support your growth between sessions.

    Our work may expand your erotic edges, introduce exciting novelty, clarify boundaries, or reground your connection in tenderness and respect. Whatever evolution calls you, my role is to help you cherish, admire, and choose one another — while stepping into a more evolved and deeply fulfilling version of your relationship.

    $2990

i promise you can…

Feel sexy, desired, wild, renewed, powerful, connected, embodied, & emotionally secure.

Wake up every day to aN erotically-charged life.

create an ego rooted in sexual lifeforce & YOUR glorious, intrinsic value.

Experience explosive energetic orgasm.

Bring Sexy confidence into the business world & beyond.

Be nurtured through SEXUAL HEALING. RELEASE sexual SHAME. Step into self-love.

Explore the radical possibilitY of mulTiple partners.

Magnetize the romanCE you desire. Cultivate polarity for lasting passion.

Meet feminine power with unshakeable confidence & sensual reverence.

unite spirituality with sexualitY.

feel pleasure as your sacred birthright.

speak from grounded goodness & BEcome AN INSPIRED & INSPIRING LEADER & LOVER.

about you

If you’ve found me… maybe you want to become the kind of emotionally-attuned man that feminine partners trust, love, and want.

Maybe you’ve done lots of self-development work, and you want to fine-tune the nuanced communication and relational skills that will allow your feminine romantic partners and business allies to feel safe in the world and truly shine. You’re here to discover even more ways to elevate the collective consciousness. You want to dismantle the sexual patriarchy and literally impress the pants off women with your genuine respect for empowered feminine energy.     

You want to be a better lover and dive deep into the physical and energetic practices that elevate pleasure. 

You want to repair your relationships to masculine and feminine energy - and explore core energies beyond the gender binary.

You feel too needy and anxious in relationships - OR - you cut and run when things get serious. Deep down you want lasting love, but you know something inside you needs to shift. You’re ready for support with attachment style.

Maybe sex and relationships generally go pretty well for you… but you like independence and autonomy… and you want a relationship that doesn’t make you claustrophobic. You want an intact sense of self - even when you’re in a relationship.

As a kid you were teased for liking girls, as a teenager you were shamed for being horny, then as a young man you were made fun of for not having enough game or having too much game, and after that maybe you felt judged because you missed the marriage boat - or your marriage ended in divorce. You know there’s a way to rise above deeply-engrained social shame about sex, love, and partnership.

You’re ready for some focused growth after a big break-up. 

You recently divorced and you want a co-pilot while you wade into the new (online) dating pool.

You’re reckoning with romantic or relational missteps of the past and you want to compassionately course-correct and come to a place of self-forgiveness.

You’re ready to explore new territory and experience deep intimate surrender - or take the reins in bed like never before - or go to a play party - or have a threesome. Let’s make sure you know how to build and maintain a secure relational container within which to explore sexy new possibilities.

Maybe the mind-bending relational territory of Ethical Non-Monogamy is calling your name, and there’s radical relational growth ahead of you.

You’re in a moment of transition (what we used to call a “mid-life crisis”). You’re emerging from the patterns you developed as a young man and stepping into a mature masculine identity. We might call this your “Prince-to-King” moment.

You’re taking on the role of an Elder - an evolved and wise leader in your community, responsible for passing wisdom down to younger generations. You want to occupy your seat of influence with all the integrity and grace your years have afforded you. You want to lead from humility and service.

You want to navigate conflict skillfully - and be able to transform difference into curiosity in every relationship in your life.

You want to show up as a secure, healed, safe leader in your workplace - and earn the trust of your team by embodying your values and maintaining grounded energy.

You know the outdated and opressive patriarchal system of yesteryear isn’t really serving you or anyone else, and you want to be part of a social evolution in which everyone feels seen, respected, and honored.

Wherever you are, I’m here to nurture and support your evolution.

Let’s discover, together, what amazing things will come alive when your erotic self is allowed to thrive, and you’re living from deep and grounded energy.

about me

Supporting men to find their peace, power, and presence is my passion.

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I’ve navigated the deepest fears, desires, and motivations of world leaders, business masterminds, hyper-attuned healers, gifted and glorious creatives, romantics and cynics, subs and doms from kinky subcultures, free spirits and neurotic urbanites, devoted tantrikas and average Joes - and I’m elated to have done totally transformational work with all of them. 

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I have a degree in conflict mitigation, and since 2006 have been racking up extensive experience in high-stakes negotiation and peacemaking - navigating nervous systems and egos of all kinds, and creating new connections within bodies and between bodies in order to shift relationship dynamics and catalyze personal metamorphosis.

I’m skilled and trained in erotic energetics adjacent to tantra, somatic techniques for healing and release, ancient erotic rituals from around the world, contemporary attachment theory, relational dynamics and conscious language practices, yogic breath work, deeply spiritual ancestral work, and physical movement practices that make intimacy truly life-changing and life-giving.

Let’s build the internal resources and external skills that will carry you into a sexy and sublime new chapter.

My role is to…

Support the evolution of your whole, healed, masculine self

Show you how to build the most glorious, erotically super-charged life you can imagine with new knowledge, skills, and sensitivity

Gently guide you toward new relational territory that meets more of your deep needs

Challenge you to bravely identify limiting beliefs and write new narratives that uplift you and enable a life full of joy, wonder, pleasure, and satisfaction

Reveal your inherent goodness and worthiness as you become an even more extraordinary lover, partner, and man

How I work

I’m very selective about who I welcome into my practice, and I keep a limited roster of clients: men who are motivated to pursue personal evolution and embody healed masculinity. 

Before you and I work together, let me ask… Are you ready for challenge and change? Are you open to nurturing support through personal growth? Ready to get vulnerable?

If the answer is yes, we’ll explore the practices (science-based and somatically-informed, sensual, primal, and spiritual) that will support your transformation into a more open-hearted spiritual seeker, a sexual force of nature, a more grounded masculine presence - whatever it is you most want to be.

I typically do individual sessions, private retreats for individuals or couples, or large group retreats. For non-monogamy coaching I work with individuals, couples, throuples, and polycules. The majority of my experience is with cis-gendered heterosexual or bisexual men, but I welcome a full spectrum of beautiful humanity into my practice.

So… are you ready? Let’s get busy.

UPCOMING WORKSHOP


ethical non-monogamy, POLYAMORY, & foundations for freedom in love

Radically released

A WORKSHOP FOR

  • REVEALING HONEST SEXUAL APPETITES

  • CRAFTING CONTAINERS FOR OPENNESS WITH YOURSELF & YOUR PARTNERS

  • TRANSMUTING TRADITIONAL COMMITMENT INTO CONNECTION THAT FOSTERS COMPERSION, COMPASSION, AND POSSIBILITIES FOR MULTIPLE LOVERS & MAGNIFIED LOVE

begin the Journey To A grounded, released, & erotically rich life

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I welcome a full spectrum of beautiful humanity into my practice. The majority of my work is with cis-gendered heterosexual or bisexual men from urban coastal America - of diverse colors, races, and cultural backgrounds - and their cis-het or bi partners. If this doesn’t sound like you, let me take a beat to honor your perfect sexual self, gender identity, and intersectionality. If we decide to work together, I’ll do the utmost to support your fullest expression. Whoever you are, you are welcome and beautiful. 

My rates are high for many people, so I offer sliding scale support to some clients. Please email me at hello@aaroardis.com with requests.

Our team is based in Los Angeles, on lands that have been stewarded and inhabited by Original Peoples including the Tongva, Tataviam, Serrano, Kizh, and Chumash peoples. We acknowledge their systematic erasure, and honor and respect their presence and continued care for the land.

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